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More than romance - stamp by JessKat-art More than romance - stamp by JessKat-art
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I wanted a stamp like this for myself, so I made one.

This isn't anti-romance. It's not the bitching of a bitter old hag, either. I happen to be in a relationship, happily so, and I've got nothing against love in general.
But while I myself enjoy the odd fandom pairing and have been known to have a romantic streak on occasion, I find myself increasingly annoyed by the over-emphasis on romance and pairings in the media.

When was the last time you saw a movie with no romantic (sub-)plot?

When did you last read a book where none of the characters ended up falling for one another?

When was the last time you heard a song on the radio that wasn't about romance and relationships? (This includes moaning about break-ups.)

When was the last time you read a fan fic that concentrated more on action and plot rather than pairings or porn?

I realize that fan fic is all about filling in the bits you felt were "missing" from the canon story or indulging in your own personal fantasies. To each their own. But the reason I enjoy my favorite shows, books and movies is because of the plot, action or characters. My fandoms are quite varied, ranging from animated movies to sci-fi and horror. I enjoy them for the intricate world-building and exciting scenarios they present, many of which are simply begging for a good writer to come along and expand on those concepts. I want to see the same stuff that got me into the fandom in the first place. Cool and sexy people chasing aliens, government conspiracies, inventive creatures and new worlds waiting to be explored. But it seems most people aren't interested in the same things. All they care about is which character gets to hook up with whom, which pairing is torn apart by a flimsy plot point, or simple PWP (Porn Without Plot).

It's not hard to see why so many single people get depressed when they're made to feel like their life has no meaning unless they find that special someone. But I think everyone has a story worth telling. Everyone. Whether or not it includes a romantic interest. Isn't it enough to tell an exciting story about a brave hero or heroine fighting against incredible odds? Isn't it enough for real, non-fictional men and women to talk about their experiences in war zones or hospitals? Isn't it enough for an insecure teenager, real or fictional, to teach us a lesson about finding their own strength and learning to stand on their own two feet, without needing a love interest to validate them as a person?

If you must insert romance, do it with consideration. Does it enhance the story, does it drive the characters? Could the story stand on its own even if you removed the romantic sub-plot? Or does it exist simply because of some unwritten rule that every story worth telling must include romance or sex in some way?

There is more to life than romance, people.
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PetitAngelOfTheNight Featured By Owner Edited Jan 26, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Let me tell you something: YOUR COMMENT WAS, WITHOUT DOUBT, THE BEST THING I'VE READ RECENTLY. I feel every word you typed there, I agree 100 per cent and I absolutely love this stamp. Romance is nice but I can't stand the fact that people seem to be in love with love. I like romance but I also enjoy stories about friendship, bravery and courage. Love (romantic love) isn't the essence of life, it's only present sometimes.
Supercoco142 Featured By Owner Edited Dec 24, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know some mixels fans who make OCs FOR TO SOLE PURPOSE for shipping it with other OCs. Almost 90% of their gallery are shippings, and when one of them did a christmas countdown, ALLL OF THEM were Christmas-themed shippings!!!!

and they even make journals saying "Who should be the lover of my OC?" and whenever I say "WHY CANT THEY BE SINGLE!?" they hide the comment
Timon-o-rama Featured By Owner Edited Dec 22, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
I completely agree with this also. It seems like everyone nowadays in any fandom from what I've seen will try to pair their favorite characters up with a romance character of their own (if there isn't already a potential one in the same material) that they could do from the franchise or even crossovers. They'll find a way to do it one way or another. Although this seems to be emphasized the most in official media here in the USA about inter-gender characters who have a good relationship falling in love by the end of a film.

What happened to other kinds of relationships for or about imaginary characters such as friendship? Or yes, even deeper detail, personal feelings or thoughts about one character on their own?

* On a side note, I think "personal fantasies" on characters is the best way to sum up the creation of fan made material such as fics and artwork like on here. Especially for What-ifs.

I won't lie, though. But it is pretty hard to not want to think about "playing" with your favorite character (excluding personality for me).

That's why I personally consider them to be "pets" of ours, because of our ability to make them something or anything you want them to be from our own imagination.
PrincessRebecca Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I so agree with you! I think what keeps me playing or watch games or movies really has little to do with the romance itself. It's about the whole story! The triumphs and trials that the characters work through! Honestly said it is my opinion that I think the Harry Potter books would've been better without the awkward romance of Harry, Ron, Hermione, and Ginny.
aimihe532 Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Personally, I've been perpetually single my whole life. I've only had my first kiss with a guy. I don't understand why lots of articles I read make a big deal about staying single or being in a relationship. Let's just let people live. I'm not going to lie. I used to be insecure about always being single, but maybe it's for the best.

And having Asperger's Syndrome, and other things to focus on, I should. I can't live in a fantasy world. I have to face reality
Watthews-Matthews Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2015  Student Digital Artist
That is true but...I would love to find a romantic guy xD
MirandaEscalante Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015  Student Traditional Artist

Romance is love. Romance is life. Big Fool Emoji-07 (Cry) [V2] 
NG480 Featured By Owner May 13, 2015
"If you must insert romance, do it with consideration. Does it enhance the story, does it drive the characters? Could the story stand on its own even if you removed the romantic sub-plot? Or does it exist simply because of some unwritten rule that every story worth telling must include romance or sex in some way?

There is more to life than romance, people."

Well put.  When focusing too much on romantic parings, that simply leaves the door open for amatonormavity.
The-MAD-Overlord Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree! as much as I enjoy a cute pairing or something I don't really like romance being the main focus of something, personally I prefer romance as a sub-plot so long as it doesn't interfere too much with the story. I guess my end point is I like romance in stuff but i can live without it.
RojaEspiritu Featured By Owner Edited Mar 20, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree! There can be a great book without romance. And even in real life we all want and hope for that someone special  but there is also so much more to look forward to in life! So much more to life itself. The life is beautiful. 
lonelynightrain Featured By Owner Edited Mar 14, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Yes very true indeed.
JesterOfLullaby Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2015
I'm glad there are people out there who agree!
FireNationPhoenix Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2015  Professional Traditional Artist
AmaranthBreakdown Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
One word: bravo. (won't say 'amen' since I'm an atheist ^^) 
Take this icon, too. :iconclapplz:
danathekiller Featured By Owner Dec 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
MISNP Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2014  Student General Artist
snap snap
Twin-Cats Featured By Owner Edited Jul 31, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Although I don't mind romance, I'll admit that it can be very repetitive.

I have my pairings and I do ship them, but as far as fanfics are concerned...only one of them have some sort of romantic subplot. I usually prefer friendship and family love over romance. :shrug:
StylishCat100 Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
You just read my mind, I swear. I mean, my upcoming novel, "A Story of Band Antics" even has a line that says specifically:
"Now, reading the above fragment, you might think that this is yet another sappy romance novel starring a bubble-headed nitwit in a quest for true love. In that case, you are terribly mistaken."
DragonDragoo Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That's awesome XD
Hermy-one Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
'Ear 'ear

so much support for this, can we not just enjoy the characters without pairing them off?
sharinqan Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconangryspongebobplz:-Yeah there's something like a JOB

:iconsadsquidwardplz: -.....

Sorry I had to.
KawaiiEmo1000 Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Arannatist Featured By Owner May 26, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i don't really like it how as soon as people break up with someone they are so desperate to find another partner :I
aimihe532 Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Yea, that just screams insecurity.
SlBERlAN Featured By Owner May 29, 2014  Student Filmographer
AlinaKitti Featured By Owner May 19, 2014
I've never shipped in my entire life actually. All but one of my books have a romance subplot, and I just realized that yesterday. They don't really need it. As for music I know a few without romance. But still, why's it so important here?
Sharidaken Featured By Owner Apr 15, 2014
This is why I have a hard time liking many canon couples from this day :P because people consider focusing way on them than the show itself :no: I don't mind a little romance here and there but why all these cliches from romance to be put into a movie. This is something I'm gonna consider while working in my novel.
Ginko-333 Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
LaDeary Featured By Owner Dec 15, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I agree. If done well, romance can make a story interesting, but most of the time it feels rushed and unnecessary. :no: What bothers me is that people seem to like a fandom solely because of their OTP, which is rarely cannon. :| Two character can't even be friends anymore without being shipped. 

And that's why one of my favorite movies is Kung fu Panda. :meow:
Ask-Sliske Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2013
The Sims 3 seems to think otherwise.
SpiderwebWisher Featured By Owner Nov 8, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Tell that to Stephanie Meyers.
Aquietpoet23 Featured By Owner Oct 17, 2013
That's what i think to and it's funny came across that, i have written some romances and that's fine i mean i like it. But currently I'm writing a story about the Mafia, a family story about a uncle taking care of his Nephew. And at first i wondered should i put someone with the uncle, but honestly i made that character so he's never gonna get a love interest. Cause some people just never date and there not into that, sides there's so many love stories and such i can hardly find a movie even Disney movies the ones i can really find where the main characters aren't with someone.

Are Treasure planet and Brave.

And honestly i loved brave it had a good strong female character without a man, nothing against men mind you. I've come to realize though not every story needs that happily ever after to make it a good story, i mean you could have a story with family values or close comfort to lets say like my story a uncle.

Life isn't about romance its about finding you're self and being able to hold you're own without someone there. Sure i don't necessarily love being single i get lonely, but i can hold my own without a relationship and seeing romance and the same old thing time to time to time gets old.
Otakumori Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yep, so true. Romantic plots are getting more and more repetitive and boring. Why can't a story more focus on the friendship between the characters instead of the old love routine? It's time for something new, don'tcha think?^^
Time-Signature Featured By Owner Sep 29, 2013  Student General Artist

...OH, I'm not alone! 

Thank you!

Time-Moose Featured By Owner Aug 20, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Precisely. There's a Time Lord to find. X3

Only movies I could think of so far are: The Hobbit, People Under the Stairs, Stand and Deliver, Freedom Writers, Beatlejuice(?), Lord of the Flies, Homeward Bound, there's quite a few Benji's (the one with Lizard Tongue and the boy with the dog breeder father), The Borrowers, Baby' Day Off (?), Willow(?), Brothers (the tiger movie), Watership Down(?), the movie with the TERRIBLE school and the black principle makes it better, Vantage Point(?), this movie that had a scene where the two black dudes accidentally ran over the China man, 300(?), Little Mermaod 2(?), Pinnochio, Fly Away Home, Babe(?), Charlie the Chocolate Factory, Charlotte's Web, all Home Alones, Professor Layton and the Eternal Diva, etc.

Disgaea3 School of Devils, Young Miss Holmes (the latest)

Sail :trollface:

Darkness, I Listen :icontrollmorphplz:
PeachyPuppyGirl30 Featured By Owner Mar 3, 2014
Those are good examples. :nod:

However, you'll notice that many of those movies were either adapted from books aimed at slightly older children, have a love interest somewhere in the background/backstory or, in the case of the Hobbit, there is a sequel which includes a romantic subplot (not that I don't like it, though). Just wanted to point out. :)
Aquietpoet23 Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2013
Don't forget brave, and most of the time if it's a big fandom they make oc's with a none romantic story.
Bluedramon Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm not very interested in romantic plots, so I rarely use it in any of my stories. One story I wrote (though never completed) last year, for instance, has absolutely no "falling in love" plotlines. At the moment, there's only two established lovers, but they've been together before the story's events and the story doesn't focus a lot on their relationship as lovers.
KaizokuShojo Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2013   Traditional Artist
Excellent and extremely valid stamp and artist description. Bravo. :)
Remington-Mancini Featured By Owner May 8, 2013
First question: Last Saturday.

Second question: Yesterday.

Third question: Today.

Fourth question: Yesterday.

But I guess I'm only lucky. :shrug:
Reapercaster Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2013
Great stamp :)
ShnarfBird Featured By Owner Apr 25, 2013
I have a policy of commenting before favoriting, but this time I do not know what to say, as others have already said it.
GodzillaKrueger Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
IYodelForFun Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2013
I love this :'D
Saiyajin-hime Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I couldn't agree with this stamp and everything in your description more; thank you for making this.
Emmaethyst Featured By Owner Mar 29, 2013  Hobbyist
Holy crap, I must say I've never thought of it that way. :omg: I happen to have a lot of my own stories where at least SOMEONE falls in love, but turns out I actually hate that kind of emphasis in other stories. :XD: This made me think about what message I really want to get across, action and awesomeness, or too much "romance"? Thanks so much for this, I think it's one of the things I've been missing lately. :)
luvmyemobud Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I love romance, but I totally agree. And this doesn't just apply to fanfics but it can also apply to real life. I'm really tired of those people who do nothing but try to find romance instead of actual focusing on what would be more important in life such as security, family, and happiness. Thank you for this stamp. I'll definitely be using it.
VanillesWonder228 Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
i'm trying to realize that romance isn't the only thing to like in anime, video games, etc.
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SilverAureus Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
yeah, it's a little thing called LIVING!
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